Don’t let anyone take your sparkle. (What to do when you feel cut down)

Hey Strangekittens. Ever felt like the world hates you for no reason? We’ve all been there. Sometimes, I feel like I get more than my fair share of it, but it’s all perspective.

So what’s a girl to do when people start hating on you?

Don’t snap back at them. That makes you just as bad as them. Feel free to rant about them to trusted friends, but never let those horrible bitches know that they made you feel less than awesome for a second!

If you feel the need to respond, take your time and respond in an elegant, humorously adult manner. For example:

Hater: “YOU SUCK! YOU SUCK AT LIFE! GO DIE IN A FIRE!”
You: “I’m sorry you feel so bad today that you’re publishing implied death threats online. Maybe you should seek psychiatric assistance?”

Ok, maybe not the psychiatric assistance part. They might not appreciate it, but that’s the point. You’re showing them, and everyone else around, how insane they sound. Hopefully this will calm them down. If not, well, you got a good laugh out of it. 🙂

I don't care! :D
I hope this picture gives you a good laugh. I found this mask in the dollar store around the corner!

But it’s not about them, when it comes down to it. You’re only really insult when you take it as one. Yes, they’re douchebags for saying it, but you never quite know what’s going on in someone’s life. Maybe they’re depressed. Maybe they’ve just been fired, or, they might just be having the shittiest week ever. Not everyone has healthy ways of dealing with things.

A lot of the time, they’re taking out their insecurities on you. Generally, I’m not bothered by the fact that some people are bugged about the fact that I’m tall for a woman. For one, it’s not something I can control, haha. Two, how does my height being different affect you, apart from the fact that you somehow take it as an insult? It doesn’t. I know many girls want to be tall like a model, but you are born with the genes you have. Most women will not reach 5’11 like me. I’m of Dutch descent. As y’all know, they are not a tiny people. As a funny sidenote, I’m actually the third SHORTEST in my family.

If it’s not something you can ignore, consider cutting them out of your life. If you want to be successful, surround yourself with positive people. Yup, this may include people you have known a long time. Awhile ago, I made the hard decision to cut my family off for good. Despite the fact that they were horrible people, I had held on to the hope that they would change, for way too long. Although I feel lonely sometimes in the world, I have my awesome husband, some badass friends that I know I can trust, and of course, the Chairman Mao-cat!

Anyway, back to my point. Remember that you are YOU, and you are awesome. No one can take that from you, unless you let them drag you down. Keep your chin up, and keep working on your ideas. One day, you’ll be glad you ignored them. Self confidence is the sexist thing anyone can have!

 

-Dannielle

 

 

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